If we accept the idea that we create our individual realities, then we must so create in order to experience. One cannot "see" what one is not putting there to see. In that sense nothing exists without our hand in it.

However one can be freer to move about and experience at will. And in the course of that freedom, let others "do" their operation, which can lead to serendipities, however much we make our willingness to know them.

Imagine yourself waking up to blackness. You open your eyes, but see nothing. You are afraid. You rise up carefully and slowly reach out your hand. There is something in front of you. It is a fabric covering something. You feel your away along it. You rise carefully into the blackness and reach out into the space in front of you. There is a flat structure. You press your hands against it, then move your hand along the flatness till you reach something on the wall. It is some sort of small moveable  object. You press it and slowly shapes begin to appear around you. They are incorporeal at first, like images on the inside of your eyelds. But then their edges begin to sharpen. There is what, a chair, then a bed, then a lamp, a table. Slowly the light comes up and a room comes into reality. Then there is full light. You see the room completely. You see yourself.

This is a reasonable representation of moving from not understanding into understanding. One does not know where one is or even that the room is there. One assumes that there is something more to see and is willing to see it. 

Emotions, fear, hate,  sorrow, regret are a part of the understanding process.. Without experiencing this emotion finding the room may be difficutl. Without a willilngness to understand despite emotion we may not locate the light switch and be stuck in the darkness. Once there is light unwanted emotions disappear in understanding. 

We likely exist in a series of self-created darkened rooms. Walk in and turn on the lights, one by one, and the rooms will brighten. Not all at once. There are a great many more than one room! But they get easier to step into and to light. There is a much brighter world to see.

Obligation I refuse
In this fouling sea of mud
payment is usurious
of one's heart and seed and blood

Yet for life I would be dressed
in harness for my debt to you
Servicing the interest
till our note comes fully due

My love has sent
so many echoes to your heart
You do not differentiate
but all are the same
and blend and fade
like colors on the edge
of the Great Sea

But for me each call
is a separate yearning
Each day a new march
for which there is no reveille
Only darkness
announcing one more night
without your embrace

Two definitions:

For human society power is how much space one can push one's ideas, opinions, and judgments into. One has others looking at one's creation in a given area. This effect can be anything from Microsoft to war, to baking brownies for the county fair. The goal is to be seen, for one's creations to be seen. In the case of war one enforces being seen. Where enforcement enters in power gets a bad name. But the idea is, if others look at us they are creating and perputuating us.

For spirit power is how far one can see. We create by looking so our power exists in conscious creation. The more one knows one is creating, the greater the area one sees and understands. This is a looking out process instead of a being looked at process.

Neither is "wrong", my opinion. But where one exists as a body there are a lot of seeming threats. A little perspective, as in creating more consciously, might not be a bad idea.